By Miguel Lloyd
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Its only fitting on the day of my anniversary we will be talking about marriage. We are going to look at it from a little different angle though. We will be talking about what is dictating marriages today…Money or tradition.
When you look at the tradition of marriage, it is based in a committed relationship between one man and one woman. The man would go out and make a living and the wives would stay home and raise the children and take care of the housework. That worked well when most means of employment were physically demanding jobs that required the physical ability of men.
Well as our culture has “evolved” to a place where your mental aptitude is as important or more important than your physical ability, more women have entered the workplace and changed that landscape.
In the African-American community, beginning with slavery, the family was destroyed and its been an uphill battle ever since. Going back to the turn of the 20th century, while many white women were home living the life of “Mayberry”, black women were cleaning houses to help supplement the income that their husbands were making, just to make ends meet. It was not an abnormal occurrence for black families to have both parents away from home, while kids were fending for themselves until their parents got home.
Well in this day and age that story, long ago, crossed racial lines, which in turn probably contributed to the steady decline of the family structure. While more women were getting better educated and in turn getting better jobs, they have become less dependent on men regardless of their race.
At the same time, more specifically, in the African-American community a lot of men have been looking for the quickest means to make a living. You have a ton of men who skip college, ignore vocational schools and deal drugs while they are waiting on that illusive recording contract. The result of that is fewer educated black men for professional black women to choose from. In my opinion, thats why a blog like Beyond Black and White is so popular or why homosexuality has become a “viable” option. FYI Brothers, more sistahs believe you aren’t worth the work…but I digress.
When its all said and done, we are made for companionship. The question is are we going to make those choices based on how much money our potential partners makes or on the tradition of building a family & legacy together? This week we will have some fun with this topic as we will bring back funny man Shed “Can I Vent” Garrett. Also will be real-life basketball wife, Terri Nembhard. We are also working on a pastor that will give us his perspective as well. Stay tuned. We should have confirmation on him by tomorrow.
Of course, as always, we will have our super producer, Nikkia Ganey with hot topics, Seshmi Robertson with Entertainment, Elton Gumbel with Sports and Alton Drew with the Politics365.com Politics segment. Join us this and every Wednesday night for the lively conversation by clicking HERE!